Long Distance Relationships

Ah, long distance relationships. It’s funny. My friend from Hong Kong said that many of his friends are in very successful long distance relationships and are literally across the planet from each other. So why do people freak out when their significant others go to school a few states away?

Age, maturity, fear of the unknown, and western society all play into it, as far as I can see. College kids don’t have the world-experience older people have, as much as I wish that weren’t true. Everyone is afraid of the unknown. And our society bangs into our head through television and other media that long distance doesn’t work.

We fetishize sex so much that it seems impossible two people could remain in love without it. This view is so juvenile I won’t even spend too much time on it. I’m in a long distance relationship, and I miss holding his hand more than his kisses. Physical closeness is the one big difference, but sex is only a small part of that. Cuddling, I would argue, is much more important. The little things. And it’s hard, but not impossible.

Maybe I’m just a product of my times, where it is so easy to remain in contact with people it seems dumb to assume distance means breaking up. Maybe I’m just naive. But in my opinion, if a relationship is meant to last, it will last, despite the odds and despite the distance.

So if you came here looking for advice, I’d say go for it.


2 thoughts on “Long Distance Relationships

  1. Excellent advice!
    My Boyfriend and I have been together for the last four and half years. He practices Kung Fu and has been presented with the opportunity of a life time, to go and train with his teachers teacher in Taiwan. I must admit, my views on long distance relationships were just as you stated for those of us raised in the West; not great and with a shadow of failure. Then, as if by divine intervention, I realized that I needed to change my perspective on this situation and view it as a great opportunity and realize that this love is real and isn’t something that will be defined by something as trivial as distance (especially in today’s tech world.) Thanks for your post, I really enjoyed it!

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  2. “So why do people freak out when their significant others go to school a few states away?”. I know right? Only in the United States.

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