Introvert Look Book: Gender Neutral Fashion Top Five

Gender neutral folks and other androgynous-dressing introverts, this is your day! It’s time to find that fashion balance an introvert strives for–stylish, without being too eye-catching. Without further ado, here are my gender-neutral top five.

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5. Horizontal stripes

Simple stripes go well with just about everything, and looks good on just about everybody. Thin stripes like these look great in black (or any other color) and add just a touch of personality to your classic jeans-and-tee combo. This is a high-quality option for just $20.

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4. Patch-covered flight jacket

Casual, classic, and unique, the patch-covered jacket shows off your individuality. Buy plain or half-decorated, then buy patches (from a craft store or Amazon) to add on. I have UFOs, Zelda’s triforce, and an LGBT rainbow on mine, among others.

Not into sewing? This is a great place to start.

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3. Rose-colored glasses (literally)

Pink is making a comeback. Both showing feminine strength and masculine power, they’re a great addition to your gender-neutral fashion rotation. Plus, protecting vision is always a hot look. Here’s a good choice.

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2. Dark floral button-down

Like the rose-colored glasses, this shirt encapsulates all that gender-neutral has to offer. The dark colors keep it grounded, while the floral pattern adds just the right amount of flair. Try this on for size! 

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  1. Detailed chest pockets.

While the bow ties in this photo might be a little too much for us introverts, I think the pocket detail is fantastic. What a neat way to add a pop of individuality to the button downs that likely litter your closet! If you sewed on those patches from number 4, this is a great next project for you. I found this photo from an article about a store that specifically sells gender-neutral clothing. They’re worth giving a look.

 

Best of luck, fashionista introverts!

Introvert Look Book: Men’s Fashion Top Five

Introvert men, you’re in a tough spot when it comes to fashion. Fashion for men seems to either be blah, boring suits or off-the-wall ridiculous.

I’m here to tell you there’s a happy medium between too invisible and too eye-catching: style.

If you would like to have a bit of style without feeling too anxious in those runway colors, look no further: here are my top five looks for introvert men.

Ladies, we’ve already done this for you. 

Non-binary/androgynous/enby friends, you’re next.

 

5. Proper Grooming/Facial Hair

This may seem obvious to many of you, but the facts are that women are typically more highly-trained in self-care. Many men don’t care about what their hair is doing, or if their beard is scruffy, or if they have a zit or two. It’s great to have confidence, but trust me: ten minutes of proper grooming in the morning can make both your confidence and attractiveness grow.

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I’m not saying you have to invest in mascara or anything, but a well-kempt beard goes miles. Simply styling your hair with a dab of gel or mousse will make you look great without standing out. Fair warning: this might feel strange at first, but after the first time you’ll feel great because you know you look great.

By the way, nothing’s wrong with male makeup. Coverup for zits is totally kosher–and while it may not be ubiquitous yet, male makeup is a growing trend. Check out this transformation–you can hardly tell he’s wearing makeup, yet he looks amazing, confident, and ready to face the day.Screen Shot 2019-12-06 at 12.30.33 PM.png

 

4. Dark Green Jacket

Many introverts prefer darker colors, and I am no exception. A dark green jacket gives a pop of color without stepping too far out of an introvert’s comfort zone.

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Comfortable and adjustable to any situation, this looks great against the introvert palate of blacks and browns without clashing. Here are a plethora of options to choose from.

Not a fan of green? Try burgundy or navy blue instead.

 

3. Hooded Flannel

Not only is a flannel an introvert must, with an added hood you’ll be able to adjust to any situation, no stress needed. It’s easy to wrap up and read, watch a movie, or chill by the fire. The hood allows comfort without needing to completely fade into the wall. I love the red and black, but flannel colors are nearly endless.

Try this on for size.

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2. Tan Hiking Bag

It’s hard finding a bag that is both masculine and efficient, but I think this has both covered. The hiker look brings style and substance to this outfit essential, and the classic tan color goes with almost anything. Best of all, it’s big enough to keep all you need easy at hand without bogging you down. Whether you’re toting your laptop across campus or your convention necessaries to a music festival, this bag has you covered.

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  1. Simple Black Watch

It may seem like a small detail, but when it comes to style, the devil is in the details. It’s the little touches that can elevate your look from ignoreable to just the right amount of stylish. This is a higher end choice, but there are plenty of cheaper options that are easier on your wallet while looking just as sleek. I like the black, because it goes with everything and looks great without catching the eye.

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There you have it, gentlemen! Hopefully these tips can help you male-identifying introverts find their niche in the world of style.

Introvert Fashion Look Book: Ladies Top Five

How do I look good when my anxiety keeps me from wearing anything too wild? This Look Book should help you get on track.

We’ll start with the ladies. Men, we’ll get to you in the next post, and afterward, gender neutral/androgynous style for those enby introverts.

 

5.  LBC (Little Black Cardigan)

Girls, this looks good with almost everything.

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It’s perfect to adjust to your changing moods. Feeling a little confident? Roll up those sleeves and get to business. Feel that introversion coming on? Wrap yourself up and read  a book in cozy comfort. Enraptured in a rare burst of energy? Tie it around your waist and transform instantly from cute librarian to 90’s rocker chic.

To be honest, I could fill the ladies’ fashion guide with cardigans. They’re so perfect. They give you just enough style to feel cute without standing out of the crowd. If black isn’t your thing, try a brown or crocheted cream.

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4. Plaid flannel

Is anything more classic than a plaid flannel? I love how they give you a pop of muted color without ever being too bright. I’m a fan of this one with its rich red and slight fit. It keeps close enough to give you shape without feeling like you’re “showing off.”

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Just like the cardigan, the plaid flannel has options. Unbutton it over a tank top for a more relaxed look, or tie it around your waist in case you’re nervous that movie theatre might be cold in late summer. Wrapping up in one of these always makes me feel at home. It’s like a security blanket, in the shape of a lumberjack essential.

 

3. Natural Makeup

I avoided makeup for quite awhile. Bright red lips and blue eyelids made me feel pretty, but seemed to attract attention–exactly what I didn’t want it to do. Makeup can be a huge confidence booster, but doesn’t need to be eye-catching. Instead of passing on it or going all out despite your anxiety, give natural makeup a try.

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This article has some tips and products to get you started.

 

2. Infinity scarf

No matter what time of year, fashionistas of the world have made scarves a staple. Introverts may feel strange keeping this winter wear on indoors, but the right scarf can look great both on the ski slopes and in the office. Try an infinity scarf in darker colors–it’s cozy, not too eye-catching, and goes great with the black cardigan or flannel (so long as the colors don’t clash!).

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This is a great place to start.

  1. Low-heeled boots

This is my number one because it looks good with just about anything. Low-heeled boots are professional and date-ready, badass and adorable. They match with a short summer skirt just as well as thick winter jeans. You never have to worry about how your shoes match or don’t match or will hurt by the end of the night–these boots are always a stylish, comfortable pick.

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These cute boots will have you comfortably stylish in any situation.

 

These are my top five favorite introvert fashion tips for the woman who wants to look great without standing out, but the world of comfortable fashion is endless–share your favorite looks below!

Top 5 fashion tips for the female introvert

Hello, beautiful ladies! I’m a strong proponent of the idea that just because someone is introverted doesn’t mean they don’t like people. It just means that they enjoy and require some time alone, and being surrounded by people for too long can be tiring.

Our personal style tells the world what kind of person we are. For an introvert who wants to feel good about how she looks but also might want to fade into the background to recharge after awhile, the best outfit is one that is stylish, but not too loud or bright. Something flexible, that allows you to both stand out and hide away when you want to.

These are my top five fashion choices for the female introvert! And don’t worry, boys, I have a post for male fashion choices too—click here!

For anyone who doesn’t identify as either gender, don’t fret! The tips are pretty gender neutral. Read both and apply them as you see fit, picking some from each and creating a fashion collage just for you:).

5. Anything that gives you confidence

This may be rather vague, but it’s one of the best tips I can give. While you want your clothing to look nice, you do not want to have to think about it all night. Your clothing should not be a source of anxiety. If this dress looks nice from the front but not from the side, if you can kind of see through it in the right light, if you can barely walk in those heels, if you have to keep tugging the dress up or down, if you’re not sure about this top with that skirt, if you’re not sure if this is too dressy or too casual or if you like it at all—don’t wear it. If you expect yourself to want to hide away for a portion of the night, save the brighter, flashier clothes for a different occasion. You’ll look and feel better in an old classic than in a new, risky dress that you’re not sure about.

4. Pockets!

I know when I’m at a party, I never know what to do with my hands. With pockets, you can hide your hands and remain looking casual and collected. Dresses with pockets are all the rage now, and it reduces the need for a handbag you might lose. Pockets are versatile, and allow you to be versatile as well. They can comfort you when you’re in the spotlight, and anchor you when you begin to feel worn out. Plus, they’re just so darn cute.

3. Statement earrings

Earrings are a great place to put the focal point of your outfit. They draw the eye up to your face but also allow you to look off to the side when people admire them. No awkward smile as they gush about your shirt—you can fiddle with your earrings or tilt your head to let them see better, remaining poised and confident. Also, you can rest assured that they’re complimenting your earrings and not making a comment about your body (“Nice skirt” can sometimes get uncomfortable). The best thing about statement earrings is that they’re like a superhero costume. You can wear them when you want to be in the spotlight, and then quickly and easily remove them when you want to blend into the crowd. Even easier, if you have long hair you can just let it fall over your ears when you’re getting tired of attention. Keeping the energy in an easily disposable accessory can help you feel comfortable and in control.

2. Layers

When I begin feeling weary of company, covering my body usually makes me feel better. It’s also a way to choose whether you want to be “on” or “off.” Cardigans, sweaters, and jackets don’t make your outfit worse, it just makes your body less visible, and that can help you feel more confident. The most important thing to remember is that fashion isn’t about what others think, but it’s about how you feel, and the jacket lets you project how you feel while your feelings change over time. Feel open and happy and free? No jacket tells that to people. Want to get out of the spotlight? Jacket on tells that to people. The jacket gives you a choice, which keeps you in control of your night.

1. Scarves

Well, I’m biased. I love scarves, and wearing them makes me feel both stylish and comfortable. Wearing a scarf is sort of like having a security blanket for me. I like it because it acts like a layer while keeping things light and easy, and I can also fiddle with it, giving my hands something to do, but mostly I like wearing scarves because it’s just something that I’m used to. That’s the true #1. If you usually keep your hair up, then wear your hair up. If you usually wear a watch, wear a watch. Keep a little security blanket on you, to keep you calm when things get stressful. A little normalcy to a unique outfit can keep your personality front and center, no matter what you’re wearing.

Top 5 fashion tips for the male introvert

Hello, handsome gentlemen! I’m a strong proponent of the idea that just because someone is introverted doesn’t mean they don’t like people. It just means that they enjoy and require some time alone, and being surrounded by people for too long can be tiring.

Our personal style tells the world what kind of person we are. For an introvert who wants to feel good about how he looks but also might want to fade into the background to recharge after awhile, the best outfit is one that is stylish, but not too loud or bright. Something flexible, that allows you to both stand out and hide away when you want to.

These are my top five fashion choices for the male introvert! And don’t worry, girls, I have a post for female fashion choices too—click here!

For anyone who doesn’t identify as either gender, don’t fret! The tips are pretty gender neutral. Read both and apply them as you see fit, picking some from each and creating a fashion collage just for you:).

5. Simplicity

Men, I know fashion is a bit more limited for you than for the ladies. There’s simply not as many choices. While women get to choose from a wide array of shoes and pants and skirts and tops and dresses and jewelry and accessories and makeup and hairstyles, men are unfortunately given less opportunity for individuality. This is okay! It allows you to be perfectly stylish, and yet able to fade into the crowd. A black suit may look similar to other black suits, but a well fitted one can make you look amazing. Subtle changes to the simple look—a semi-vibrant tie, a nice watch—can make you stand out from a crowd just enough to keep your personality without attracting too much attention.

4. Removable statement piece

The best part about such a limited palette to work with means that a small statement piece goes a long way. I already mentioned the semi-vibrant tie and nice watch, but have you considered cufflinks? A vintage hat for outside? Something that you can take off when you want to get out of the spot light but allows for compliments otherwise make you both stylish and in control.

3. Black

Black is the new black, because black is never out of style—especially for men. While bright colors are great when you’re feeling bright, after awhile you can begin to feel like you’re wearing a costume. When your clothes don’t reflect how you feel, you can begin to feel worse, faster, as insecurities about how you look kick in. Black and dark colors are versatile, and can say “talk to me!” just as easily as “I need a break.” Whereas a yellow or pink shirt signals that you’re “on,” all the time, darker colors give you more of an option.

2. Make-up

Hear me out! When you’re going out and trying to decide what to wear, the best tip is to wear something that makes you feel handsome. You want to feel good about how you look, no matter what you’re wearing. If you have acne, that can be hard to accomplish. I’m not saying to splash on the mascara, but a dab of concealer can make all the difference. If you’re nervous, have a female friend, family member, or significant other help you buy some that matches your skin tone. If you live with a female family member, their skin tone is likely similar to yours, and you could ask to borrow it (or ask them to apply it for you). It may be a bit unconventional, but a little make up goes a long way in both the looks and confidence department. If you want to keep experimenting, a light eyeliner can really bring out the eyes without making it look too feminine. Ask an experienced make up user to teach you how at first; using subtle eyeliner subtly can be tricky. In the same vein, a tweezer and five minutes can change not just your eyebrows, but your whole life.

1. Layers

Layers are pretty high up on the women’s list as well—it’s a pretty gender-neutral tip. It’s natural to feel safer, more comfortable, and more secure when your body is covered up. It also offers versatility, like the removable statement piece. You can have your light shirt for when you’re “on,” and then put on a black jacket for when you’re “off.”  Depending on your preference, a beard could also serve this purpose by “hiding” your face from people—though, if you don’t normally have a beard, growing one may make you feel more uncomfortable. The goal is to wear an outfit that helps you, not hinders you. Layers give you the option to change your outfit to match your emotions. A nice layer can keep you stylish and give you self-confidence. The bottom line is, dress for confidence!

Introvert Fashion

I’m addicted to scarves.

No, it’s true. I have probably about thirty scarves. It’s a problem. But I love them.

I do really like fashion, but I’m not a huge risk-taker. I wouldn’t leave the house in a Lady Gaga meat dress or anything–in fact, I often limit myself to one “strange” thing per outfit, whether that be a scarf or bright shoes or big earrings.

The second thing about my fashion sense is that, obviously, I’m an introvert, so while I like being fashionable I don’t like to stand out too much. I wear a lot of earth tones. Burgundy, olive, dark  brown. I also like to cover up quite a bit with cardigans or tights or, yes, scarves.

There are some strange fashion choices, especially at a liberal college like the one I go to. I’ve seen girls with full heads of hair wear wigs to class. I’ve seen fake tattoos, platform sneakers, and sweaters with boobs embroidered on the front.

This is all fine–fashion is about expression, and if girls want to express themselves with neon and flash that’s fine! It just usually signals a neon and flashy personality, which I don’t really have, so the fashion seems odd to me.

Fashion may seem trivial, but it’s a way for other people to see who you are at a glance. However, it’s not just about how daring your choices are. Even as an introvert I like a bit of color. I like painting my nails and wearing hats and just a bit of flair, because I like to.

What I would never wear is a political tee shirt or button. A lot of my (liberal, young) friends are very much into Bernie Sanders (democrat running for president in the US). That’s great, fine, but then they also wear his shirts, his buttons, his stickers, like flashing billboards about their political views. I just wouldn’t be comfortable doing that. It’s not so much about the color of the clothing as what it says about you.

That’s kind of why I like fashion. I get to pick what my outfit means, one piece at a time, and then how those pieces relate say something as well. Everything you wear says something about you, whether you realize it or not.

So, I will keep my brigade of scarves and wear them with regardless of warm weather!

My Feelings on Fashion

As an introvert, I don’t tend to wear clothes that will draw too much attention to me. Even still, I like looking my best and try to dress in a way that is stylish without being over the top.

I recently had a professional-dress job, and realized my wardrobe–while pretty–wasn’t very professional. So, I went out and bought some dress pants, some nicer shirts, some well-made shoes. After the initial shock I found I felt much better about myself, and was surprised at how the rest of my clothes had affected me. In my new clothes I felt smarter, older, and it seemed like people respected me more as a colleague, even though as an intern I was at the bottom rung.

I like watching fashion shows now and then. I like seeing how trends float down the social ladder and change as they go, transforming into clothes actual people might wear. I like shopping, but I don’t like spending money so I go to thrift stores and outlet malls. I still make out pretty well.

I do think, as had been said before, there is a difference between fashion and style. I’m not somehow “above” fashion, no one really is, but style is far more important. Style is how you express yourself within the broad topic of fashion. Right now, as far as I can tell with my limited knowledge, Earth tones are coming in. This is great, I love Earth tones. Deep burgundy, olive green, mustard yellow, rich brown…all in fashion, but its style that shows where and when I use the trend.

The best part about style is that it doesn’t always have to follow current trends. I still wear scarves even though those aren’t in vogue anymore, and I have a drawer full of flannels and cardigans for layers. I’m glad I don’t only follow strict fashion rules, it allows me to be creative.

As Meryl Streep said in The Devil Wears Prada, we are all affected by fashion. Every bit of clothing we wear is a redesign of a redesign of a high-end designer, and whether we know it or not we are affected by the clothes we wear. Professional clothes make me feel more professional, and sweatpants make me feel lazy.

Some advice with this falls in with the ever-famous “fake it ’til you make it.” If you feel lazy, hating the fact that it’s only Tuesday, put on some nice clothes. A tie, a skirt, nice shoes. Comb your hair. It will make you feel better. Dress for success, as they say.

Just don’t wear navy blue with black…that will never make anyone feel better.